Women Who Inspire: Strength in Others

During my journey through life growing up and moving around I have had the opportunity to meet and admire many inspirational women along the way. I think about these women often. Many have come into my life just when I needed them most and have made an impact on me one way or another. Many haven given me strength in a moment when I most needed it.

None are Nobel Prize Winners or Mother Theresa’s but they are courageous heroes in their own life living passionately day to day. I’ll be dedicating a “Women Who Inspire” feature on my blog to showcase and celebrate these women as they deserve, with the hopes that they and others around them get to know how awesome and impactful they really are.

My first feature focuses on a long-time friend of mine, Jackie Reynolds.

I’ve known Jackie for years. We grew up in the same city and I was very close friends with her older sister. I was often at their house over the years, or accompanying their family on vacations, having sleepovers and growing up.

As friends often do we all grew up and grew apart. I completely lost touch with Jackie for a long time. I believe through Facebook I found out that she, like me had a daughter who was on the Autism Spectrum.

To be honest, when I found out I was glad. I wasn’t glad that her daughter had been diagnosed, but I was glad to have a friend. Here she is, a girl, who I grew up with, from my hometown going through the same thing. I finally had a comrade!

Jackie has been there for me to reach out to time and time again for questions, supports and a sounding board.

I am proud to know Jackie, I am proud to share in a tiny piece of her journey and if there is even just the tiniest reflection of myself in her as an ASD parent I am honoured. I think by virtue of this interview process, and the blog it will also hopefully shed more light and understanding about kids on the spectrum, that every kid and journey is different and how impactful early-intervention and therapy is invaluable.

Q: Where are you currently living and with who?

A: I live in Toronto, ON with my husband and two daughters Addison and Payton, and our cat Buddy

Q: What do you do for a living?

A: I am a compliance advisor for a financial company

Q: What is your passion?

A: Cooking

Q: When and how did you find out that Payton was on the spectrum?

A: We always knew something was a bit off with Payton, she was not meeting the milestones that her older sister Addison was meeting when she was younger. However, we were a bit reluctant to acknowledge this as she was meeting all her mobility milestones (crawling, walking, etc). It was her speech that was the most telling. At 21 months when Addison at that age was speaking in sentences, Payton only had one word, if any.

Q: What were some of the signs that Payton wasn’t “typical?

A: She was very particular, she only liked to sit in her spot on the stroller, in her car seat in the car, she got very jealous if I held another baby in front of her. If I got angry with her, she would self-inflict and bang her head on the floor, she did not respond to her name when called, rarely gave eye contact, limited to none language, she did not point. She was particular of the type of clothes she wore. For example, in the winter we took a trip to Mexico, I did not pack any warm pajamas or long sleeved shirts as it was going to be warm. Payton was not prepared for that transition. Every day was a battle to get her dressed and we had to endure long periods of cries and screams.  If she wanted something she would do hand over hand and guide me to what she wanted. She did not engage with her peers nor did she care what they were doing. For example, we had a birthday party for Addison when she turned 4 and a princess was there, all the girls where engaging in the game in a circle, Payton just walked right through the circle not paying attention to her peers to grab a cheesy from the bowl and then she walk away. She constantly walked on her tip toes and would sit in the swing for hours if she could. She was in her “own” world.

Q: What is Payton’s relationship like with the family? You? Your husband? Her sister? Extended family?

A: Payton in the beginning did not have a strong relationship with her extended family as she rarely engaged with them and it was hard for them to try and find a way to get to her. She was close with me, Brent and her sister. She did and still has a special bond with my father, he would always take time with her and he spent many hours pushing her on the swing, doing what she loved, and I think she remembers that and will always appreciate that. She also went through a very stressful phase of attacking her younger boy cousins. It was very stressful at family gatherings because you never knew when she would lash out at them so I always had to be by her side to diffuse the situation.

Q: What is your biggest fear?

A: That she will never be self-sufficient (get an education, have friends, live on her own, hold a job)

Q: What is your biggest challenge?

A: Well, I would like to think my biggest challenge is over. This is why. When we got the diagnosis it was a big blow, but with any challenge for me, I put myself to work to find out the best options for Payton. This included enrolling her in daycare, putting her on the GF/CF diet (that lasted 6 months – it did nothing), setting up speech therapy, signing up for all the programs and finding an ABA therapist.

Our biggest, but I must say most rewarding challenge has been Payton’s ABA therapy. We started her therapy in April of 2013 and never looked back. We have a fantastic therapist named Susan Pike. She is great at her job but she is also tough as nails. As what I learned early on is as parents we need to adopt the training and follow through on the ABA teachings or what Susan works on will go to waste.

Payton is a completely different girl than when Susan first met her. However this change was NOT easy. For the 1^st six months of her therapy Payton cried through the whole 3 hour session (she had 15 hours per week then). She was defiant not to learn and not to have Susan take control. It was extremely hard to listen to your own child cry for that period of time. Susan was not hurting her in any way, nor was Payton being harmed. Payton was just stubborn. However, then things changed, she started complying with Susan’s demands, followed the direction of the therapy and that’s when Payton’s world started to become our world. She started to let us is. This happened in the following ways:

• She now talks in full sentences and engages in social dialogue

• Engages in play with her peers

• Listens to her teachers and follows direction

• Potty trained

• Still walks on tippy toes but only 50% of the time

• Writes her name, draws, writes letters

• Verbally communicates her needs

• Adjusts to change and new surroundings

• No more clothing issues

Now, this was mostly achieved with Susan and but it was also on Brent and I and also my daughter Addison to follow through, we took those teachings and followed through at home. That was hard, especially when you are dealing with an episode in public, you want to give up but you must follow through even if it results in stares of pity in your direction.

One note about Addison, the best thing we could have ever done is had Addison first. She has been the best teacher, friend and sister to Payton.

Q: How has this experience changed you?

A: It has humbled me, especially because I know Payton’s story of success is not over and it is only going to get better. That is not the reality for a lot of these kids. Some parents don’t have the resources accessible to do early intervention, some are in denial and wait too late to effectively inflict change, and some are parents of children no matter the therapies you do or what you do at home, their child will not improve. Payton still has a way to go, but I have no doubt in my mind that she will be a successful, independent, strong willed girl.  

I feel for those families that will never experience the gains we have, and it makes me feel sad for them that their struggles will continue into adulthood, I don’t think that is fair. Life really is not fair in those cases.

Q: What is the single most defining moment in your life?

A: With Payton? When I quit my job to focus on Payton’s development and meeting Susan Pike.

My personal defining moment, I don’t think that time has happened yet.  In a way I feel I have not met that point yet on really defining who I am and what I am meant to do.

But I have one that comes close. My best friend was supposed to go to a sports camp over the summer. She got sick and since her family could not get a refund, I took her place. It was from that experience and talking about that experience with one of my high school teachers that fall convinced me to do something I never thought I could do. Apply to be a camp counsellor.  I know it sounds cheesy, but I idolized those counsellors and to think I could become one well, was amazing. I applied, and got the job and was a counsellor for 2 summers. That experience showed me if I worked hard for what I wanted, I can get it. I can become that person.

Q: What are your hopes and dreams for your girls/family?

A: My hopes and dreams for Payton is this diagnosis does not define her, it just shapes her. Like being and introvert or extrovert. Yes Payton is Autistic, but she also has green eyes and brown hair it is part of who she is and she is no different from you or me because of it.

My dream for both my girls is for each of them to reach for their goals in life, if it involves university great, or if it is a trade even better. I just want them to be happy and fulfilled and for them to achieve that fulfillment in their own way. Not in how I would perceive it to be achieved.

Q: What is the hardest moment you’ve ever been faced with and why?

A: You know, I don’t think I can answer that question. Because, after I have gone through something that may be considered hard, I look back and am like, I did it, I survived it, it was not so bad. I hope I am not jinxing myself here…

Q: How have you, if at all had to adjust your lifestyle, hopes and dreams as a family and parent?

A: The biggest adjustment initially had to quit my job; I am not the stay a home type of person. I think fate realized it because I ended up getting offered a job where I could work from home and worked around my schedule. If I did not have this job, I don’t think I would be as happy as I am. I am not the type of person that gets fulfillment just through my family, I need more, I strive for more and my independence.

But one thing I will say, I have not adjusted my lifestyle too much, it is who I am. I still go out on dates with my husband; I take time with my girlfriends; I take time for my professional development; and I also take time for my family.

Q: How has your family’s journey impacted your marriage/ relationship with your husband? If at all?

A: Of course dealing with any child that has special needs is very hard, and our family has been impacted. But what has held us together is we are both on the same page on what needs to be done to support Payton. If we were not unified on that front then we would probably have deeper issues.  But again, I consider my story a happy one, our challenges were temporary. Life is getting easier for us and for that we can relax a bit more. Who know what challenges will bring in the future as Payton develops and gets older but I feel confident if we have made through these challenging times, we can do it again.

Q: What is your version of “heaven” or your “happy place?”

A: A clean house and ordering takeout

Q: What is your guilty pleasure?

A: Booze and girls nights

Q: What is your favourite song?

A: It changes, but at this moment, Highway by Audioslave

 

The Perfect Birthday Formula

Birthday parties are quite unpredictable and typically don’t go well with our amazingly awesome (can you tell I am bias?) 7 year old daughter Maggie who has high-functioning ASD (Autism Spectrum Disorder). They are often hard for her to socially navigate and oftentimes she’ll end up removing herself from the party entirely, excusing herself to be alone, or to play on her Ipad, or she’ll just get agitated and upset.

Which leads me to this blog post. Instead of having a party for Maggie we now offer her 3-4 Birthday options annually (it’s better when she gets to choose and is in control). Last year, we happened to be in Michigan around her Birthday so she chose to go to Avalanche Bay (one of Michigan’s biggest waterparks) and we had an unforgettable blast!

This year, out of the four options we gave to Maggie she chose Canada’s Wonderland. Her choice did not surprise me as she is completely and utterly fearless. (Which PS I find completely fascinating as she can’t even stand itchy pants or the smell of the meat aisle at the grocery store).

Wonderland Fun!

Canada’s Wonderland was such an amazing choice, and we ended up having an epic day. Given our five year old son is far from as fearless as his big sis (and not nearly as tall) we met up with my younger sister and brother-in-law to form a bigger (but not overwhelming) group that could easily be split up into the daredevils, and scaredy-cats. (I was a member of the scaredy-cat team of course, motion sickness is pretty much my middle name).

Maggie & Auntie Lo – Part of Team Daredevil – Loving the Coasters

Maggie got to spend the day riding GIANT roller-coasters and was in sheer heaven! We also got the fast pass at Wonderland, which for an added cost you get a wrist band and don’t have to wait in the regular line, making the line-waiting anxiety for Maggie disappear. (Soooo worth it!) At one moment during pizza lunch she leaned over to my husband and said: “Dad, this is the best day of my life.” Which in and of itself made the whole entire trek completely worth it.

Mom & Martin (aka the scaredy cats) enjoying the kiddo rides just fine! 🙂

We are a good 3 ½ – 4 hour drive from Toronto so to add to the Birthday experience we decided to head downtown Toronto and stay over for the night. We chose the Delta Chelsea hotel as they have a family suite which includes 2 bedrooms (one for the kids and one for us) and a pull-out couch.

Team Scaredy Cat meeting the peanuts characters

Although the highlight of the trip should have been Wonderland, unexpectedly, just as equally awesome was the hotel. Unbeknownst to me the Delta Chelsea caters to kids. From the moment we checked in and arrived they were presented with a “welcome” gift from the Hotel Manager which they both adored. They felt so special.

Kiddos loving their room service pizza party!

Their kid’s room was perfect with two beds – and their own TV! The real awesomeness was the amazing pool with the most impressive waterslide. Even after a tiring day at Wonderland the kids spent a good two hours at the pool riding up and down the giant swirly water slide. They started referring to it as the “city slide” as for part of the journey down the slide is exposed on the exterior to the city (which you can view from above).

Giant “city” swirly slide

In addition to the pool/waterslide there was a kid’s room which was incredible. It was loaded with kid’s toys and activities and even had real live big, fluffy bunny rabbits! How cool! Across the way from that was an arcade set-up which the kids also enjoyed, we got to play air hockey and pin ball.

Kids activity room

On top of all of that the kids got to eat their meals for free at the hotel (with the cost of an adult meal). They adored the café-styled restaurant with kid friendly meal options, and for free.

Amazing kids room set up

My kids really did think they died and went to heaven! They ask me every day to go back, and this time they want to stay a whole week. (What kid wouldn’t?) During our stay we kept running into the Hotel Manager around the hotel. The kids kept recognizing as he was the one who presented them with their welcome gift – so basically he was the hotel Santa-Claus. He was very friendly and chatty with the kids, and at one point when we ran into him both kids asked for a hug, and the Hotel Manager was kind enough to oblige.

Family pool

So, parents, if you are looking for a fun-filled weekend I highly recommend the formula of Wonderland (with the fast pass option) followed by a family-fun stay at the Delta Chelsea hotel, consider booking the family suite which offers ample room and separate bedrooms to make the most of your stay!

On The MMMove Again #Lakelife at Lambton Shores

While lying on the beach the other day my 6 year old daughter turned to my 5 year old son and said: “Pinch me, I think I’m dreaming!” I asked her why to which she replied “Our new home is so awesome it MUST be a dream!” I smiled widely and wholeheartedly agreed with her.

Since I’ve blogged last we were located primarily in Ann Arbor Michigan. We’ve recently relocated to the Lambton Shores area located near Sarnia Ontario. We were fortunate to get a wonderful home situated right across from the Lake.

Part of the fun of moving to a new area is exploring and discovering life where you are, I love this part of the move. We’ve only been here for three weeks, but so far I already have faves! So, I’ve compiled this handy top 5 list if you ever visit or are passing through the area:

1. Grand Bend – We are a 20 minute drive from Grand Bend which is AWESOME! We’ve already ventured there twice. So far my Grand Bend family faves is the AWESOME park and splash-pad located off the main strip on the beach. We also took the kiddos to Aunt Gussies for breakfast which was DELISH and they even made a special request “Eggle Bagel” for our daughter Miss Maggie Rose. (to her utter delight!)

2. Canterra Park – We’ve only just scratched the surface of this massive park! There are several awesome playgrounds to choose from, and it is located on the water. It’s pretty neat to hear the large ship horns bellow every now and then. They also have  beach area here. I look forward to taking the kids back here for a picnic (there are plenty of BBQ’s picnic tables and covered picnic areas available). Apparently there is also a children’s animal farm there too which we are looking forward to checking out.

3. Paddy O’Flaherty’s Sarnia – WOW! What an awesome location to grab a pint right at the main marina! They also have great live music some evenings. I can see this quickly becoming a frequented spot.

4. The People – I’ve decided that when you live near the lake it inevitably makes you the happiest person ever. I’ve never encountered so many happy, helpful, friendly and genuine people in any other place I’ve lived, but let’s be honest how pissy can you really be while experiencing #lakelife.

5. Endless Beaches – There are so many beaches to choose from! We were lucky enough to move to an area called Blue Point which allows us access to a private beach. The beach is sandy, with some pebbles. The water is clear, clean and calm. There is even a park along the way to the beach so often we stop for a play and then hit up the beach.

Given our new location I’ll be posting all about life at the lake. I look forward to exploring our new home and embracing this dream-worthy #lakelife

onthemmmove Travel Editon: My New Favourite Getaway: Naples, Florida

Nothing Beats Florida Palms!

Back in November I had the rare opportunity to travel spouseless and childless to Naples Florida with my lovely mother, alone! Coming from a family of 4 siblings and being a momma in the thick of raising a 4 and 6 year old this was like a dream come true!

View of the Pool

I actually got to leave for 5 days! I repeat 5 days! I know, I know, INSANITY! Thankfully, my children were left behind for a nice visit from my in-laws who were kind enough to come and help out with the kids!

So, long story short my experience in Naples was nothing short of AMAZING. For those that are looking for a warm getaway with plenty to do, I highly recommend checking it out. Here’s a few gems/tips I found out along the way that I thought I’d share:

Cheap Flight Realness: Depending on where you are willing to/can fly out of flights can be insanely reasonably priced. I flew Spirit Airlines out of Detroit – a direct flight to Fort Myers (which is about a 30 min drive from Naples) at only $260 return. Depending on what airport you are willing to fly out of, and if you are open to a basic flight with no bells and whistles deals are waiting to be had.

En-Route To Naples

White Sand Beaches: I was completely blown away by the awesome beaches in Naples. They definitely rival anything I’ve experienced in Mexico and other travels. I was fortunate enough to have access to a private beach through my parent’s condo complex, however we ventured out to the public beach one evening and it was just as nice.

Enjoying the beach in Naples

Mom taking a dip in the warm ocean

Tons of Yum: There are so many great dining options that my mother and I quickly created a rule. NO COOKING aloud. We literally went out to dinner every night – and with no shortage of fantastic restaurants this was very easy to do. Some of my favourites included:

• Gumbo Limbo (at the Ritz Carlton) @ Sunset– We met friends here who were also vacationing in Naples at the time for appies & drinks. It is well-known for its spectacular sunset views, and traditionally there is a large bell that is rung at sunset. Hands down I had the best mojito of my life here and I can hardly wait to go back!

Sunset Drinks @ Gumbo Limbo @ The Ritz Carlton

• USS Nemo – This was our last, and one of my favourite dinners. The food was absolutely to die for. I had the sea bass which was like butter, and the service was fantastic! The seating is tight and the resto is full so be prepared to share in conversation with your dining neighbor!

Dinner at USS Nemo

• The Dock Restaurant Naples – This was our first stop for beverages and dinner when we first arrived. We had a fantastic table looking right out over the dock/water and had a perfect margarita paired with some great oysters!

Margaritas & Oysters At The Dock!

The Dock Oysters – TDF

Ussie At The Dock

• Tommy Bahama – You can drink, eat and shop! One evening (post Gumbo Limbo drinks and half-intoxicated) we found ourselves in Old Naples at the Tommy Bahama store which is attached to the Tommy Bahama restaurant/bar. Although I am not usually a fan of shopping on holiday I proceeded to purchase a fab fedora, and a cute LBD (Little Black Dress) which I’ve already proceeded to rock at X-Mas parties. Post-shopping we headed into the restaurant area where we were treated to a one-man band live music, and some yummy apps & bevies.

Enjoying the band and bevvies at Tommy Bahama Resto & Bar

Drunken Fedora Purchase from Tommy Bahama

• Three60 Market – This market/café is located right down the street from where we stayed and has quickly become a family favourite. Fun fact: The owners are Canadian!!! (CANADA REPRESENTIN’ IN NAPLES!). We picked up gourmet deli-styled food here to eat at home, and we went back for brunch another morning. Every time the food was great. The view sitting out on the patio onto the channel lined with boats was spectacular, and we were even treated to some manatees swimming by during our breakkie! They also have a wine store within the market, and I was able to pick up a few bags of homemade key-lime cookies to bring home which the kids are still talking about! Can’t wait to get back here!

Patio Brunch at 360

There was so much more that Naples has to offer, and with just 5 days I feel like I barely scratched the surface! So, I’ve created a light at the end of my dreary winter tunnel and I’m going back in May. This time with the kiddos and husband, Spirit flights are booked and the countdown is ON!!!

Naples Calling….

Gurl – Go Get Your Hair Did!

Go get your hair done, and I mean NOW! Doesn’t it make you feel AWESOME – especially before the holidays to get a fresh cut, highlights, colour or all of the above???

If I ever won the lottery I would employ my stylist Michael to live in my mansion with me and do daily blow-outs, styles, and shampoos complete with massage (He is the GOD of shampoo head massages BTW!)

Before – After & The Process with Magic Mike

The power of a great stylist can do wonders. As Michael says, I generally come into Tricho Salon looking like a MOM but leaving like a MILF! I’ll take that as a compliment! The key to when you know you’ve found that great stylist – is of course you leave the salon looking beyond fantastic, but you are also able to do your hair easily on your own, and keep looking great!

I can do my own hair!!!!

Not only have I found an UH-MA-ZING stylist but I’ve also found a fantastic salon and spa! Tricho, who recently relocated to Briarwood Mall is luxe. As soon as you walk through the doors the modern grey and white toned décor feel clean and classy. One of my favourite things about the space is the decadent light fixtures. Who doesn’t love staring at a stunning light fixture while getting a shampoo.

Lighting – Hair Wash Station

Lighting – front desk

Front Entry Way – Looking festive for the holidays

Tricho also really knows how to treat their customers well. Recently, I was invited to a customer appreciation event where I wined and dined with the friendly and fun staff at Tricho. It turned out to be a fantastic evening where we socialized, laughed and danced into until the wee-hours of the night. (FYI we broke it down so bad that pants hilariously split….These peeps can DANCE!!!)

So go and get your hair done with your local stylist – and although they may be booked up, see if they can squeeze you in before the holidays, or at least New Years so you can look good and more importantly FEEL GREAT this holiday season!

Before & After – Making Magic Mike werk

For Ann Arbor blog readers I am giving away a $50 gift certificate to Tricho with Magic Mike himself if you comment below on what you love best about getting your hair did!

Magic Mike – Hair Genius

For all non-local blog readers I am giving away $50 toward a stylist appointment at the salon of your choice if you also comment below on what you love best about getting your hair did!

 

Event Planning Quick Tips

Jessica Moran, Founder Diamond Knot Public Relations (www.diamondknotpr.com)

With over 11 years doing PR and event planning I’ve experienced my fair share of successes, and of course hiccups. Event planning for clients can be stressful. The main thing I’ve learned is with a proper plan, and the proper organization tools many event planning stresses can be reduced, and even eliminated. Here’s a quick tips list I’ve compiled! Enjoy!

Event Planning Quick Tips:

1. “A goal without a plan is just a wish.” ― Antoine de Saint-Exupéry – Always have an event plan, even with the smallest event a plan is a great tool for communication and keeps everyone on track!
2. Create a critical path outlining all organizational items. Organize by category. This can not only be used as a check-off tool, but it is also helpful to have as a guideline during internal and external meetings to illustrate what has been done, what needs to be done, what is priority and if the planning is on track.
3. Have a stocked event planning kit on site complete with items such as scissors, tape, paper, pens, highlighters, a small first aid kit, clipboards etc.
4. Always arrive several hours in advance of your event to try and avoid last-minute running around. Also consider arranging an event site visits prior to your event date to inspect the area, plan, walk around, and get a sense of the logistic of your event day.
5. If you are hosting an outdoor event and are hoping for nice weather, always have a tent booked and other equipment such as ponchos or umbrellas on hand for guests. You can’t control the weather, but you can control how much guests enjoy your event.
6. For formal events, be sure that guests, media, and VIPs are personally greeted.
7. Keep a close eye on your budget. Always build in a reasonable contingency for the unexpected.
8. Keep calm and carry on. Even if things are hectic behind the scenes don’t let on to your client or guests. If you can hold it together, your event will often appear flawless to guests, even if there are some internal glitches – there always are!

To check out all of Diamond Knot PR’s services visit me at www.diamondknotpr.com

DRAG ME: TO LIVE NIGHT CLUB ANN ARBOR

Last week I had the opportunity to enjoy an epic evening of fun, friends and drag at Ann Arbor’s Live Nightclub (www.livea2.com).

LIVE Nightclub, Ann Arbor

Here’s how it all went down: I received and excited text from my new friend, fitness instructor, and hair stylist, Micahel Herl. He let me know that one of RuPaul’s Drag Race Queen Contestant’s, Joslyn Fox was going to be performing at Live Nightclub that evening.

It’s not often I get the opportunity to see good drag, and being a big fan of RuPaul’s Drag Race show I just HAD to go!

We started the evening at Aut Bar where we enjoyed some awesome cocktails (my personal fave was Michael’s own personal, simple creation: Absolute Pear with Cranberry Juice).

We then moved on to Live. We continued to order rounds of the Michael special which was equally delicious at Live. The music was awesome so we headed to the dance-floor without hesitation!

Jess, Michael & Jeffery

 

And then, without warning Andi Drogenous (Ann Arbor local) graced us with her fabulous presence on the stage. She treated us to an incredible performance and looked fantabulous in a leather dress that I only WISH I could rock in my dreams!

Andi Drogenous Performance

She then went onto request that the crowd beneath the stage part to make way for the stunning Joslyn Fox. As the crowd split into two creating a red-carpet aisle effect for Miss Joslyn Fox the music suddenly changed from club to church. Could it be? Was this all a dream? Was I back at Catholic School Mass???

And then, it all snapped into place it was Madonna’s Like a Prayer blaring through the speakers as Miss Fox sauntered down the aisle adorning an authentic nun’s outfit from head to toe, complete with habit, rosary and bible.

Joslyn Fox, Nun

As she made her way to the stage her back faced the crowd. Then, in perfect timing as the hymn part of Madonna’s Like a Prayer subsided Miss Fox stripped from nun to sweet and sexy Angel!

Joslyn Fox, Angel

Her makeup and hair were flawless, her outfit (and body) rivaled that of any Victoria Secret Angel. After her routine was complete she also stuck around to answer questions from the crowd, and offer insights into RuPaul’s Drag Race.

Meet & Greet with Joslyn Fox – Jess & Michael

I even had the opportunity to meet Joslyn Fox personally where Michael and I were able to get our photo taken.
Post-Show we hit the bar & dance floor one last time, inspired by both Queens’ sweet moves.

A big thank you to Michael, Jeffery, Kevin, Connor, Chris, Kevin and Bobby for making my drag night epic! Can’t wait to go back for future performances!

Jess, Connor & Chris hitting the dancefloor

LIVE Ann Arbor Nightclub Bar

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Just Dad

With Father’s Day right around the corner it got me reflecting on my own father, and my relationship with him and what an important impact he has, and continues to have on me.

I’m lucky. My Dad is an ambitious, hardworking and successful man. His ambition and hard work paid off as he has been able to own and operate his own company, volunteer and sit on many boards, and as of the last few years he has fulfilled his life-long dream of being a successful Politician.

 

I admire my father’s ambitions and successes. He taught me ambition through example, as well as caused me to strive for an ambitious partner in life, for that I am forever grateful.

Even with all of his ambitions and successes the best part about my Dad is just that – he’s my Dad and although I am immensely proud of him the best part of spending time with him is that he’s Just Dad.

Here’s what I love about him – and what makes him Just Dad

• He loves music, and has passed along his joy of music to me. Growing up we’d lie on the living room floor together with my sisters and listen to, or sing along to his records which included The Beatles, Stevie Wonder, James Taylor and many more fine artists.  You better believe that I chose You’ve Got a Friend by James Taylor (http://youtu.be/xEkIou3WFnM) for my wedding dance with my Dad. Every lyric of that song exemplifies my relationship with my Dad.

 

• He has a passion for cooking, and is an amazing cook! My Dad always makes the best food and trust me there is ZERO calorie counting here! It’s typically rich and buttery and absolutely delicious. Over the year’s his cooking and love of food has created gatherings, and connections. I’ll never forget his bread baking Saturdays growing up as a child where he’d bake endless amounts of divine homemade bread – Sunday’s we’d then go visiting family and friends bearing the priceless gift of Dad’s bread.

• He makes a mean cocktail! Few people know that my Dad took a bartending course years back which frankly makes him the best cocktail mixer of all time! His martini’s are my all-time favourite and I’ve got plenty of memories (albeit fuzzy) of him mixing up batches of martini’s at the ski chalet with friends and family.

 

• He always makes time for reflection. Even though my Dad’s schedule has always remained hectic he always finds the time (at least once a week) to meditate or reflect, I appreciate him teaching me the importance of this.

• He’s always there for me. My Dad has always been there for me – especially when it matters most. He was instrumental in supporting me during my University Years at Laurier University, and was there for me during a rough time in high-school with unconditional love and acceptance for my irrational self. I have vivid memories of moves coupled with IKEA trips followed by hours of IKEA furniture assembly that my Dad assisted me with (okay who I am I kidding – he did it all!) when I was getting newly set-up in apartments away from home and trying to get on my feet as an adult.

• He realizes the importance of family time. Growing up I have wonderful memories of my Dad, despite his busy schedule creating family time whether it be annual RV trips to Disneyworld, weekends at the ski chalet, family boat trips, cottage stays etc. We always had family time with my Dad – and we always had fun!

• He puts family first. This was particularly clearly illustrated to me when my brother was sick with Cancer growing up. At the time, my Dad owned and was running his own renovation company. He put everything on hold to be with my brother, and my Mom 24/7.

• He is my biggest, best, and most loyal cheerleader. From a very young age my Dad always told me that I was beautiful and that I could do ANYTHING I wanted with my life, he made me feel loved, and accepted but more than that I really did grow up thinking that the sky was the limit, how liberating!

• He accepts me no matter what, and loves me unconditionally. Sick or unhealthy, skinny or fat, good mood or bad, pregnant and hormonal, or three sheets to the wind my Dad accepts me, and welcomes me with open arms no matter what. By doing this he has, and continues to instill me with self-confidence.

Although I am not able to spend as much time as I used to with my Dad given mine and his hectic schedules I know that he is always with me in life cheering me on, having my back and continuously supporting me. Now that I have my own children Dad is a Grandpa (or better known as Papa to his grandkids). I get such joy watching him spend time with my kids and continuing to share his Just Dad qualities with them.

Happy Fathers Day!

Mother’s Day Top 5

This year Mother’s Day, the holiday when we take time to celebrate the women who do the toughest job on the planet turns 100! On this day I am choosing to write about my own spectacular mother, the amazing woman who continues to inspire me on a daily basis.

Now that I am a mother of two children I think about, and appreciate my mom and all that she did to raise four kids, she has taught me an endless amount of things throughout my life, and here I’ve narrowed it down to the top five:

1. Strength – Not only did my mother raise four strong children but at a time when most parents her age are retired and free she still continues to mother my special-needs brother, continuing to care for him on a daily basis. I am sure when she had kids (as I did) she assumed they’d all become independent and leave the house at an appropriate age.

 My brother Jordan is not fully independent, and likely never will be. My mother continues to mother him day in and day out  with a smile on her face and has chosen to make the absolute best out of the hand she was dealt. She has been and continues to be a   strong advocate and voice for my brother. Her fortitude is beyond admirable; she has taught me the true meaning of strength.

 

Independence – My mother has always been an independent woman. At one point she worked full-time while raising four children as well as caring for and advocating for my brother, morally supporting my father in his dreams and ambitions, and remaining involved in the community.  Even though she always had the support of my father she always had her own strong sense of independence and taught us that from a very young age.

 

3. Perseverance – My mom never stops, it gets to the point where I sometimes even need to BEG her to sit down and take a break! Especially when we were young, the family was demanding, and my mom stepped up to the task and persevered. I have a very vivid memory of my mother, after work, cooking dinner, doing laundry, and putting the kids to bed sitting down at the kitchen table late at night to open the mail, organize the family paperwork (permission slips etc.) and pay the monthly bills. Now that I am a mother myself I can relate to what would’ve been her utter exhaustion and likely her urge to just want to crawl into bed – but she persevered as it had to be done, she had a family that needed her.  She never stops until the job is done, and always gives it 100%.

4. Fun – My mom taught me the meaning of fun, and busy as she is she always takes time out to have fun. Now that I am older and visit with the grandkids she’ll sit and play silly games with them, infecting them with laughter.When I was young we would blast the music and lip-sync to our favorite tunes, (usually Motown) coupled with some sweet dance moves! My parents would also plan and take us on many memorable, fun vacations: Cottage rentals, Disney World, and our chalet in Ellicottville New York for some great skiing and awesome fun memories. To this day my mom still makes time for her own fun, for that I am glad as she deserves it! She golf’s, works out, travels, and gets together with friends frequently. Her sense of fun and joy is infectious.

5. Endless Nurturing – Maybe it’s because my brother was sick growing up that my mother became so nurturing, although being second born in the family I never remember her not endlessly caring for and nurturing us.  Prior to my brother getting diagnosed with leukemia I had a kidney disease. During this time I was quite sick – back and forth to the hospital, on large amounts of medication, and for the most part unable to attend school.Day in and day out my mother took care of me. She was by my side the entire journey visiting doctors, administering medication, holding my hand (and hair) while I was nauseous and sick.

I have one particular memory at the time when I was laying on the couch watching television as my mom stood by ironing.I remember I had zero appetite when I was sick, and when I did have an appetite I couldn’t keep anything down. This obviously concerned my mother.  A commercial for Miracle Whip came on at a commercial break and on it they showcased the tastiest sandwich I’ve ever apparently seen.I turned to my mom and ask her to make me the sandwich. Excited that I finally had an appetite my mom dropped her ironing and rushed to the kitchen to whip me up the Miracle Whip sandwich.  (Sidebar: my LEAST fave condiment is Mayo so I must’ve been ill!) My mom brought the sandwich back to me on the couch and it looked EXACTLY like the one in the commercial (I swear this woman has magical powers). No sooner did I scarf the sandwich down that it came right back up Miracle Whip and all, and who was there to help me, and clean it all up – my amazing momma!

With my mother’s nurturing back then I got better, shortly thereafter my brother got very sick and I have many memories of my mother patiently and gently taking care of him.

My mother continues to nurture and care for her grandkids, she currently has four. I recently depended very much on her nurturing when my youngest got quite ill. She hopped a flight to Calgary (where we were living at the time) and helped me administer medication, clean up vomit, change diapers etc. She continues to help nurture me, and my two children, and her nurturing spirit continues to touch her family and friends who surround her.

There are a ton of amazing Mothers out there. What did yours teach you?

Happy Mother’s Day from onthemmmove!

Dinner At On The Lam

One of the great things about moving around is how special it is to visit my hometown, Brantford Ontario when I get a chance. I just love being able to go back and visit family and friends. With moving around frequently this can prove to be more challenging and often you feel like you are missing out on valuable time spent with loved ones.

That’s why I have made a promise to myself. When I am visiting with family and friends whether they come to me, or I return back home to visit them to try my best to make our time special and meaningful, often that can mean simply getting together over a glass of wine at my parents place or arranging a play date at a friends house, or dinner out with family & friends, that’s what recently led me to On The Lam.(www.onthelamrestaurant.com) (aka OTL)

Leading up to booking a dinner out at OTL with my younger sister and mother I heard a lot of great things about OTL and I was dying to try it! Needless to say I was not disappointed and while in town I even got the chance to sit down with owners Scott & Grant to learn a little bit more about the restaurant.

Owners Grant Schuman & Scott Stewart

Both Scott & Grant were born and raised in Brantford, Ontario they chose the location for the restaurant (formerly West 111) due to it’s unique architecture, accessibility, small manageable size and the ambiance.

Scott & Grant met in high school and have been friends ever since. Scott, Chef at OTL with over 10 years of industry experience is passionate about cooking and that absolutely shines through in everything he prepares. The presentation is unique, but more than that the food is AWESOME! According to Grant they serve up “The best steak you’ll ever eat.” I couldn’t agree more.

Steak Sous Vide – TDF!

A very well-traveled Grant was our server when we visited OTL. He was sweet, attentive, and right on the mark in all of the recommendations he made. He even totally twisted our arms into ordering dessert (yeah right!) and thank goodness he did. TDF!!!

When I asked Scott about his favourite dish at OTL he recommended the fresh scallops. I also had the pleasure of trying the scallops at my family meal and they were also amazing, and don’t even get me started on the Oysters – Awesomesauce with a capital A! Not only is the food good but so are the cocktails. So good in fact, that my mom, sister and I ordered two rounds along with a great bottle of wine with dinner.

Scallops & Oysters TDF!

When I asked the boys what song would best describe OTL they chose Let the Good Times Roll (Harry Nilsson version). http://youtu.be/bh1gNfvGbVI. Let me tell you after two Prosecco Cocktails and a glass (or two) of Bogle Pinot Noir wine the good times were rolling!

The only thing better than the food at OTL was the company! I enjoyed an amazing dinner out with my sister and mom right in my very own hometown of Brantford, a big thanks to Scott & Grant for opening a 5 star restaurant in the City and continuing to follow their dreams!  I can’t wait to visit again when I am back in town!

AWESOMESAUCE ALERT: The Puffed Potatoes….still dreaming of them!